Pehea e hooki aku i ke kapakai a iho i nā kanaka: pono kāu kiʻina hana a me ke alakaʻi 'Oihana

Hoʻohālikelike ia oe iho me na mea e ae, e maʻa mākou i mai kamaliʻi. Paha a pau hoʻomanaʻo pehea iʻimi i nā mākua, e kui i kona holo a me kekahi poʻokela ano o ko lākou mau na¯, emphasizing ana oia i no he lōʻihi ke ala? Ka Uluwehi o mai, ua hana mai o ka maʻa hoʻomau e komo i loko o ke kapakai a oe ia oe iho i nā kanaka. A i mau mea huli mai i loko o mākou ka lokomaikaʻiʻia mai.

A ina he kao mākou hihia lakou a pau pono ma na lunakahiko, a me ka i loko o pale aku ia i ka hoʻohālike, laila me nā mākua, e ae mai oe, mai kā lākou mauʻano, e ana i ka pomaikai o ko lākou hanohano o 'ē aʻe, involuntarily hakumakuma lākou ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia.

A hiki aku ua like me kā i increasingly hampered loaa ia ia ke ola, e pono e hoʻomaka i ka hana me ia. Pehea e hooki aku i ke kapakai a oe iho i na mea e ae? Ua nui na ano.

Ina ia mea e pono ke hana i ka maʻa, e hoohalike

Pehea ke kapakai a oe iho me kekahi poe e ae, e ku malie, a hoʻomaka e ola loa? A ina i nā mea a pau e hiki, no ka mea, aia no he mea me ka maʻa a pau? Loa kiʻi pohaku uinihepa, no ka mea, paha, a aole loa e, akā, ho'āʻo e hana ai i ka mea aole e hoomake iho ko makou mau ola, e mea pono. Akā, pehea?

No ka hoʻomaka 'oe wale pono e consciously hooholo e haʻalele Hoʻohālikelike maikaʻi. No kekahi koe i ke kanaka ia ia iho, eʻaʻole e hiki ke hana ia no ia ia. Wale koi maʻa e hoohalike ai iaʻu iho ia e houʻana a me ka laki kanaka e e hiki ke hele ana no hoi ka mahina i ka pomaikai a me ke ku okoa ana. A he waiwai ia e aʻo pehea ke kapakai a oe ia oe iho i na mea e ae, e ku malie, a kiʻi pohaku uinihepa, o keia maʻa.

Mākou e i like me ia?

Pehea e hooki aku i ke kapakai a oe iho i na mea e ae? Nā kumu no ia mauʻano i ka uhukiia,ʻaʻole wale nō i loko o ka hoʻonaʻauao. Mākou i mau i kau mai ai ma luna oʻimi hoʻopunipuni stereotypes nani ke ola ma nā hoʻolaha ma luna o kīwī, ma ka Internet. A mākou e pinepine i makaukau i ka alo ia, e hoopoina ana au i hoʻolaha AIM e kuai aku, a aole hoi e hoike aku i ka maoli ola pale.

I ka manao o ka inferiority pinepine ia ke kapakai a ana ia lakou iho me ka houʻana a oi nani maoli kanaka aicieeaao. No ka laʻana, ka wā niio? Nā kiʻi o ko lākou mau hoa a me nā hoalauna ma ka lawelawe latike. Holomua, ma mua kilohi, kanaka makemake e waiho Loko Ka 'Uhane i loko o aina e hele, ma affluent wahi,' ihiʻihi Hawaii.

A no laila, ka mea i loaa ole ia e ike i kona iho ola nei,ʻaʻole pēlā alohilohi ... I e like me nā mea a pau i kēia nani iho hauʻoli minute e like kona maka.

A ka mea, aole i hele mai ai i kou manao i ka manaʻo i kanaka eʻilikai i ka Internet ka Hawaii photo, wale ho okumu ana i ka illusion o maikaʻiʻana? A i ka mea ana i ka "holomua" a me ka "maikaʻi loa" makemake i huāhuā kou hoʻonānea a me ka hemahema hoi ka pomaikai ...

Wale ka mea, ua loaʻa i ka mahalo, a me ka mahalo no ka mea, ke aʻo 'ana, kanaka e e hiki ia maoli kiʻi i ka ho'āʻoʻana o ke ola!

E komo i loko o ka hoʻoponopono-flagellation i hawawa,

Inā he keiki mākou i "ana" me na¯ pono mai o ka wahi o ka Hawaii o nā mākua, hana a maikai papa, 'ihiʻihi liʻiliʻi, ma mua makahiki e hoomaka ana i ka hoohalike machines, lol, ano, kūlana hana,? Aaoee, loaa a me ka pomaikai nui ...

A pau keia hoʻohālike mea increasingly i loko o ka lokomaikai o ka mea 'ē aʻe, he kanaka nahu iho la kuhi hewa,ʻo ia i hoʻomaka e kanalua ai oe ia oe iho, a haha aku flawed. Maopopo i loko o lākou iho nā mea hiki aole e paipai i ka hana hou aku, akā, ma ka mea ku ole, ka poʻea pau i ka mea i na lima hāʻule ...

Psychologists nei - keia pakiko-flagellation mea pointless a hiki naaupo. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, o ka ke ao holoʻokoʻa i hana mai kēlā me kēia kanaka hanana. Kēlā me kēia o ko mākou mea kū hoʻokahi. Kekahi hāʻawi talena ma kekahi wahi, kekahi - i loko o ka 'ē aʻe; kekahi i loaa mai ke Akua i ka kekahi mawaho nani, a me ka mea'ē aʻe i hāʻawi i ka maikai uhane; 'ē aʻe e huhūʻoukou iā i ole nani,ʻaʻohe kūikawā nā mākau, akā, ke ola nei no ka laki i na mea he nui i hoopea aku ia ...

I mea no ke aha la ia mea,ʻaʻole e pono i ka hoohalike ana ia lakou iho me na mea e ae - e like me ka hanana hanaia'na. Hoʻohālikelike Logical ... pono me au, akā, i ka mea e ae, i loko o nā ana, a ma kekahi mau manawa.

Pehea e hoohalike au iaʻu iho me ia ...

No ke aha la e hoohalikeia me nā pono a me nā successes o poʻokela 'âlapa a me Artists? Nui hou pono e hoohalike ana ia lakou iho me ka ia, akā, i kekahi manawa aku nei. No ka kumu, keia iloko o ia a nei iʻaʻole i loaʻa, a me keia - mea, ua i aku o ka lanakila. Oia ka hoʻohālike ua kūpaʻa ma ka pakiko-icai?, E lilo maikaʻi.

No laila, inā i ka ninau o pehea ke kapakai a oe iho me na mea e ae, e hooki aku, ia mea i pili ia oe, ka mea, ua pono e aʻo pehea e lawe mai ia i ka e like me ka inehinei, e haawi aku i kaʻoia iʻo auhau o kona neʻeʻana, a hoʻomaka e e haaheo o keia la ka pomaikai. Pehea?

Mai hoopoina e pili ana i ko lakou mau pono

IeAUPIIe, IAa IO mākou hoohalike aku ia makou me'ē aʻe ma luna o kekahi mau anakahi. Akā, kekahi mai ka hānauʻana i haawiia mai kekahi hanohano, a me kekahi - 'ē aʻe ... nā mea a pau he mau ikaika a me ka palupalu.

Akā, 'aneʻi' o ka paradox: ka pomaikai o na mea e ae, ua hoonani aku i ka hanini, ka mea, he ia mākou ono a me ka hanana. Akā, ma luna o lākou iho e piʻi like, ua somehow loa koke poina. Ka mea, i mahana aʻe ai ka uhane mea wale nō ke hoʻomaka, akā, ma hope o ke ana o ka manao o ka haaheo a me ka olioli auou caiaiai pōʻeleʻele oho ka paopaoʻana.

People me ka haʻahaʻa ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia, psychologists kuhikuhi i nā mea a pau i ka piʻi like, o ka mea liilii loa, i ka mooolelo. ? Aeiiaiaiaaia e hoʻomaka i ka kūikawā diary. A hookahi ma laila i ka manao i kekahi manawa hou hou ke kapakai a oe ia oe iho me ka 'ē aʻe ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia catastrophically ma hope iho, e hina, oe wale pono e hou-heluhelu i kona mau memo ma ka diary o ka piʻi like. He nui no ka hoomanao i ka papa inoa o kona pomaikai ia mau hoopiha i!

Akā, e mai e ka hōʻoio

Ka downside - hoohalike ia oe iho me ka poe e noho ana ma kekahiʻaoʻao,ʻaʻole nō e ola mai ai i kou una honua. Keia, hoi, i ole pono e ole. Wale ma mua kilohi mea i manao ia, ke kapakai a ia ia iho me ka poe e noho ana i loko o kekahi mau wahi e emi holomua, he kanaka ke hoala mai lākou ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia. I mea, ua hele aku ai i ke ano o ka mea lapuwale. A me ka hapanui o importantly, ia inhibits kona iho naʻu-ulu, 'aʻole i ulu ka hōʻoio kanaka. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, no ke aha la e hele maikaʻi, ina oe ia kekahi i loko o kekahi meaʻoi?

Ma kekahi hihia, e hoohalike ana ia lakou iho me kekahi poe mea palapala me. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua hoʻohālike hana i kekahi kanaka a pöʻino, a me ka hōʻoio. A me kekahi, a me kekahi mea i kekahi mea maikaʻi i loko iho, aole ia i lawe aku.

mana ia oe iho

Kanaka hoʻoponopono i ka minute ka wā e hoʻomaka e hoohalike oe ia oe iho i na mea e ae: i koke i kona poo mai ka manaʻo o ka superiority a inferiority, koke alualu ia mai o laila! Pakele o ka mea lapuwale a me ka awaawa huāhuā aho i loko o lākou uuku.

A ia laua hiki ole e hana ino i ka ke kuka nei lakou i na pono a pau o. Paha mākou e ole e lili o nā 'ē aʻe, a ho'āʻo e huki i ka wahi o ke ola i loko o a oe e he uuku ma hope?

No kekahi laʻana, e mamao mai ka maikaʻi huahelu hoa paha mea hana keaka? Mai Mai mai oukou, mailoko e kiʻi kōkua no ka mea, - maikaʻi e hele ai i ka hola palau! A ina e manao ana i kou pomaikai ma ka hana mea me ka nui loa i emi iki mahope i na e piʻi like o nā hoapili, mea e hana pakiko-ulu, a me ke kākau inoa ma ke aʻo papa.

Inā 'oe, ma ka mea ku ole, haha aku i kekahi mau mea i ka superiority ma na mea e ae - kōkua ia e hopu mai i kou kiʻekiʻe. Kou pakiko-ʻia e wale hoʻonui.

Pehea e hooki iho hoohalike me nā wāhine

Loa pinepine e ae, mai ke kapakai a oe ia oe iho a hiki i nā 'elele o ka maikai ke keka. E hoʻomaka ana me ka mawahoʻikepili a pau me ka pomaikai nui i loko o kona kino ola a me ka 'oihana. hoopuka aku i ka olelo hooholo me ke kapakai a oe iho me nā kaikamahine holo ana, pinepine lilo ana no ia i kekahi o ka mea nui keia ma ka mea e manao hauʻoli.

Psychologists aku nei au i ke kapakai a lakou iho oi maikai a me ka holomua i ka poe i ole ke aloha ke ola. He, disinterested, i mea ole no ka mea, a me ka "pono no ka mea,". Kēia inferiority eiiieaena ua inadvertently lawe mai na kaikamahine makua i loko o kamaliʻi, i ka wa a ka hoomaikaiiaʻi, honi ole ae i kekahi meaʻoluʻolu no ka maikai ana, wahi lulu kōkua, etc.

A ina keia mea he pono hewa manaʻo o ke aloha ua pono ka i loko o ka naau, ka mea pono e liʻiliʻi. I hoʻomaka me, kēlā kaikamahine pono aʻo i aloha ia oe iho e ka mea a ke Akua i hanaʻi ia. Kēlā i kona drawbacks, akā, ma laila a me ka hanohano, i ukali ia e nīnūnē mea hemahema wale hiki ole ke ike! He nui no ka hoomanao ana, e aloha aku oe ia oe iho a me ka'āponoʻana kona mea hemahema, he wahine i loaʻa ka lokahi.

Pehea e hooki aku i ke kapakai a iho i nā kanaka. ka hopena

A pau o ko mākou mai ka wā kamaliʻi hoohalike aku ia makou me'ē aʻe, akā, i ka maʻa mea pono e pakele ana.

Consciously Track a uhi i na makemake i ka hoohalike.

Mahalo i ka pono o na mea e ae, mai poina e pili ana i kou mau ikaika.

Aloha aku oe ia oe iho e like me ka mea mau. ʻae i kou mau mea hemahema. E hoomanao i ka pono kanaka mai ole nei.

Ma ka hana ana pela,ʻaʻoleʻoe e hai i ka mua oe e hou i ka hana a pehea ke kapakai a oe iho i kekahi poe, e hooki aku.