Pehea e pane i ka compliment?

Anei oe hoolea pinepine? A he aha hoʻi kāu NaI? I kekahi manawa, he kanaka, aole ia i ike pehea e hele i loko o like wahi, i hiki, pehea e pane ai i ka compliment. I kela kanaka keia kanaka ke akahele, a me ka hanohano, eʻae mai ia lakou. A pinepine ka mea, huli mai ia mākou e ole loaa ka leʻaleʻa, e hoolea ana, a kiʻi hua'ōlelo mai i loko o kona helu wahi, a me ke kumu o kekahi kōkua.

Compliments hiki ke loaa no hoi ma ke kākoʻo '-hana, a me na makamaka, a me ka hiki malihini. I ka pü, mau pane ia ia. Na, koe wale nō ka wā hihia kekahi kanaka meaʻawaʻawa loa ia oe, a oe e i makemake e kamaʻilio me ia. Ma ia he kulana home 'ole ua' ae 'e kāpae'ōlelo mea ana i lohe ai.

Pehea e pane i kekahi compliment ai i kekahi kanaka?

Aia nō kekahi mau kumu e pale ponoʻole pane, e hoolea aku, a loaa ia ia:

1. ke kanaka ke aloha i ka mea, e ho'āʻo ana e manipulate ma keia aoao.

2. He mea i hoihoi i loko o ka manao o ka mea nana i complimented.

3. Na kanaka ke aloha i ka mea e hoʻohui ia me kekahi mau kuleana.

4. He manaʻoʻiʻo mea, aole ia e pono hoolea.

5. Eia hoi, he kanaka wale, aole i makemake e ia i loko o ka pāpaho i.

Inā 'oe pono pane i ka hoolea ana, ka mea e e nui emi no manawa. He nolaila nui e ike pehea e pane ai i ka compliment i loko o ka ua kulana home 'ole. Oe aʻole 'oe i ke invent. I hookuu i ka hua'ōlelo "aloha oe" a me ka minoʻaka, e e lawa. Mākou ke i aku nei au kiʻi hua'ōlelo ma muli o. I ole hihia e ole e excuses, aʻaʻole e hele i loko o nā kikoʻi. Loa i pono e hai aku i ka kekahi aoao e like me ka maikai lole oe i kuai i kuai a me ka pena i ka ka manaʻo pohihihi o kona āpana. He keu au mamuli. Akā, i ka hopuna'ōlelo "mea kūikawā", "mai ai iaʻu, a hele," "au e i manaʻo ai," e kamailio e pili ana i kou haʻahaʻa ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia, ʻo ia, aole ia i ae oe i ka i leʻaleʻa a me ka piha olioli o ka hoolea.

He nui e ike i wale ana i ka pane i ka compliment, akā, no hoi pehea, e olelo aku ia. Mai ka glorification o nā mākau e hilinaʻi nui loa nui, no kekahi laʻana, ina e paa hou i kou lā e. Hilahila kanaka mai i'ōlelo i nā compliments e lū Lovelace o nā wāhine i loko o ka lalani (me ka manao pono, oiaio). Aole hoi kekahi, aole hoi i kekahi mea,ʻaʻole he koho. Maoliʻoluʻolu oiaio compliment - ia mea,ʻaʻole he exaggeration, akā, he kanaka o ka hoahewa ia.

ʻO ka mea maikaʻi o nā mea a pau hiki e kaʻawaʻawa loa, ina oe overdo ia. Nolaila, he mea nui ka ana, e like me ka pono me tact a me ka mahalo, no ka mea, e kaulana e ia oe ke ponoi hoʻoholo ai 'ole nä hopuna hookahuli ai i kānaka.

Wahi a ka 'ikepili helu, kokoke e pau loa na wahine mahalo' compliments kā lākou hana, e seamlessly hui pu iho la i ka nana a me ka hale chores a me ka hana, e like me ia e ka surprisingly uʻi a me ka opiopio. E like me nā wāhine, poho o ka'ōlelo mai lākou nani - ka mea,ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa compliment. Akā, i ka loa nani compliments me ka hoʻomaoe hou akulaʻo o ka intimacy mea ole a pau i makemakeia. He nui na wahine loaʻa lākou ka hoʻoponopono-i mālama aku.

Mākou a pau haha aku i ka pono no ka akahai olelo, e kōkua e haha i ka noonoo ana a me ka uku hoopanee ia ia, kākoʻo iā mākou ka wiwo ole.

E ka io maikai, delightful, ke kino a me ka leo hone compliment - mea he oe. Akā, i ka mea nui wale - e olelo aku kiʻi hua'ōlelo mai o ka naʻau, a me ka pili ana i ka - mea ole no laila, nui!