Pono,ʻano pākīkē keiki!

6 anuu e kōkuaʻoe Makuakane me aggression i ke keiki ka.

"He aiʻano pākīkē a me kekahi manawa, a hiki hawawa koʻu kaʻu keiki ... maʻa mau ana iaʻu i au i haʻi aku iā ia, i loko o ia mau minute, au e lilo aku ke ahonui, a hoouna aku i ke keiki i kona hakahaka. Pinepine, ua hiki aku i ka waimaka ... "

I ko makou hana mākou (psychologists expertbaby.ru Ka nū) eʻalo i nā ōlaʻi i o ia mau moʻolelo. keiki kekahi, ka wā o ka huli anaʻe i ko au o ka? acaeoey a no kekahi'ē aʻe kumu, e ma lalo o stress, e huki mai i ko lakou mau Emotions i na kanaka e haha loa palekana me ka mea - i loko o ka roditelyay. Akā, na makua, ua kanaka nui, a me kā lākou huhu keiki ka aggression, i mea he loa maoli naoh. Huhu, ua e manaʻo, e hai aku i ke keiki i ka mea i hana, a pehea e hoi, e hoopai aku i ke keiki , a hiki hoʻonui hoʻi ma ia ia.

Akā, ka wā he na keiki e eʻano pākīkē, a uncontrollable, ka mea, e pono ana, e haawi mai ia makou i ka SOS maika i. A ina ua olelo ia,ʻana aʻe i kona leo, hoʻoweliweli (e like, ringworm kekahi), e hele i ka mea'ē aʻe keʻena, "e mālie iho", mākou e maiʻae i ka popilikia neaiaea i kekahi keiki no laila, desperately hoouna mai, a me ka haʻalele i ke keiki wale a me kona pilikia.

O ka holo ana, ke keiki ka hana hou e like me ka minefield ma mua o ke noi no ke kōkua, akā, ka poe i olelo mai la ia i ka hoʻonaʻauao 'ia' ana o na keiki - he mea hope? Aia ma lalo oe e imi i mau'ānuʻunuʻuʻeono ko e kōkuaʻoe Makuakane me aggression i ke keiki ka.

1) KaʻAnuʻu hoʻokahi: ho omaopopo oe iho i ka wā i kou kamaiki e kahea ana, mai i hoolohe, iʻano pākīkē, ka mea, e hoʻopakele i ka SOS maika i.

O ka holo ana, keia kumu aggression ka wā i ke keiki ka hawawa koʻu ia oe. Akā, inā 'oe ke lawe i ka hanu nui, a Exhale, malama malie, e lawe no i koe a hiki i ka hōʻulu o kekahi o ka mea nui akamai pū nō hoʻi kāu keiki -' ehaʻeha o ka pakiko! Children aʻo nui aku ka pono mea mākou hana, i mea mākou olelo. Inā e hooho i ke keiki, wehewehe ana ia mea pono e malama ia oe iho i loko o nā lima, ia meaʻaʻole paha ia e ike ma ka lolo o ke keiki ka. Ma ka kekahi lima, ina kou maʻamau leo - hōʻihi a me ka malie, i loko o ka wā e hiki mai, ka hōʻihi a me ka malie kamaʻilio, e lilo i ke kūmau, a no kāu keiki.

2) KaʻAnuʻu 2., hoʻomaoe hou akula i ka huluhulu leo - e Alohaʻino.

Mai Mai e ke keiki kilo, mai nema aku ana ia, ma ka mea ku ole, kokua ia, kuhi ana ia mea he mea e hopohopo nei, e kaumaha i ka kūkākūkā ia. No kekahi laʻana: "oe i kekahi mea nui loa naʻau, e kamaʻilio pū ia iaʻu e like meaʻiʻo. E haʻi maiʻoe iaʻu i hanaia ... ". Akā, inā 'oe anei e ole i mea i ke kumu o keia hana a me ka ninau ana na ninau e kahea ana a me ka huhu keiki i kekahi manawa lapuwale. E ho'āʻo i ka reformulate i ka ninau i loko o ke kuhiakau: "He oe huhū no ka mea, e hana ino kekahi?", "E scream, no ka mea, au e ole i mea e hana ai?". Oe e ole e pono ai i ka "kiʻi i ka wahi", ka loa hoʻomanaʻo stimulates i ke keiki e pane ia oe, a me ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ana.

3) KaʻAnuʻu Hana 3: E hoomakaukau i ka makua, e poha.

Ua hoʻoneʻe 'ia paha i kou kono ano keia ano, e kūkākūkā i mea e bothering i ke keiki ke no hoonaukiuki aku i kekahi kaiakahinalii o Emotions ma muli o. E aa aku i na mea a pau i loaʻa mai i ka mea i lilo ia ia (ke keiki) ola i ka mea weliweli loa ia, kaulikeʻole, a hiki unbearable. A malia o ka mea ia oe i na kumu nui. A lailaʻoe i ka naʻauaoʻoiaʻiʻo e decipher i ka pū i hiki neaiae pololei i ka hōʻike. I ka papa kuhikuhiE mea, mai lawe a pau aku la i loko o kanaka. A pau, ua makemake e haʻi aku i kekahi keiki - e Aloha i ka nui o ia ka naʻau.

4) Kai 4 empathize.

Ae, ua ike oe i huli manaʻo: "He Uwä ke i mai iaʻu, a me au i ke empathize?!". Akā, ka mea, o kou e menemene aku ai e hoola i. Words e like me "Oh, aloha, e au ike ... ole kupanaha 'oe makemake e kōkua." Ko oukou pale ana i ke koi aku ia, e kamaʻilio aku ia ia mai o kona makaukau, a me ka loa kń ia lakou, i aku la, "e mālie ia." O ka holo ana, He mea naʻau ma minute o aggression ke keiki. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, no ka mea, he lōʻihi kona manawa i mālama iā ia iho i ka hāʻule pohō wale i kai mai ai ilalo ma luna ona i kēiaʻino honua. A me kou empathy pono ka hana i ka pono o ka pakele no ke keiki, ke hoike nei aku nei au i kekahi mea naʻau iā ia, a hookuu ia e hele.

5) KaʻAnuʻu 5: Listen pono e hoʻonāukiuki i ke keiki, e manaʻo e pili ana i ka olelo hooholo.

A hiki aku i ke keiki i ka laʻi iho,ʻo ia ke manaʻo e pili ana i hiki pāʻoihana. "A mākou ke hele aku no i ka hele i kakahiaka nui, Auntie Natasha a me Maxim?" Kou olelo? "Great manaʻo! He aha hou aʻe hiki mākou i hana? "

O na papa, ke manao i ole e like oluolu e? Ii, e like me "au e i makemake e hele i ka papa mua, au Kuahiwi O aho noho ma ka hale" o kou mai? "Hmm. Oe Kuahiwi O aho noho i ka hale, aʻaʻole e hele i ke kula, i ke kula paha hoʻomakaʻu oe manawa, akā, e ka manaʻo e pili ana i ka mea, malia he mea kekahi mea e kōkua iā mākou, nā mea'ē aʻe hiki mākou e hana ai? "

No laila, i ke keiki ke aʻo 'ana e kaumaha aku i ka manaʻo a me nā pāʻoihana, a hiki ka pāʻana i ka nui a me ka hopohopo, a me ka hapanui importantly, ia eliminates ka pono, e kaua aku i ke keiki, ho'āʻo ana e e mālie iā ia i lalo. Oia i kokoke i ka hoʻoponopono pilikia ma ke keiki hana manao pono a me ka mākaukau.

6) KaʻAnuʻu 6: E kōkua i kāu keiki e ano o ka mea hiki.

I ka wa e hui kūkā pū me kāu keiki i hiki mai, ka mea e hoʻomōhala ana i mea naʻau manao, a me ka ia ka poʻea pau i ka ulu ana o neural pili 'o Randy i loko o ka lolo i ke keiki, e aho mālama lākou Emotions e ae (kani maikai, pono?). E houluulu mai oe ia oe iho, hui aku i ka manao, he wahi pono o ke Quotes, a'ōlelo i kāu keiki e pili ana i mea hiki. "Ua ua i oluolu i ka noho mālie ia oe Fashion ai kōkua i keia la, i mua au i iʻeha, akā laila au ike pehea kōkua 'oe ... I Ka Naniʻoliʻoliʻoe i haʻi mai iaʻu."

I ko mākou nema aku ana keiki a kauoha ka hoʻololi aʻe, ka mea, pale aku. Inā ma ka kekahi lima, e kaʻana i kou inā pilikia ka haumāna a me ke kōkua i ke keiki, e makaikai i kona mau Emotions,ʻo ia, e loaa i ka hanana i ka wa pono e maopopo ia pehea ua ike ia e na mea e ae. A malia paha oe e e kāhāhā, e lohe i ka hopena o ke hoʻololi aʻe paha ke keiki o ka hoʻomaikaʻiʻana a me ke ahiahi, "I aloha aku oe."

Ae, o ka anuu, i ho'ākāka 'ia ma luna koi hou manawa a me ke kākoʻo' ana mai 'oe ma mua o e hoouna aku i ke keiki i kona lumi "e manaʻo e pili ana i kā lākou mau hana." Akā, ka wā e hoʻohana i kēia hoʻokokoke i loko o ke kaʻina hana o ka hoala ana i ke keiki, e hoʻomōhala i kona mea naʻau manao, e ao ana ia ia empathy a me ka wehe pilikia. A, oe e deepen i kou pilina me kāu keiki. E like me ka hopena, loaa ia ia ia mea,ʻaʻole e pono i ka hooho ia e lohe, e like me oe J More maikaʻi kēia 'atikala oe e huli i ka nū expertbaby.ru