Pehea e ike i kekahi "ʻawahia" aloha?

Ka wā e puni ia oe iho me ka hoa, oe i ka manawa e ola hou hoʻohālike au i hookahi kanaka. Kēia i ua hoʻoholo like 'oe noiʻi mai Australia a me Harvard. A 10-makahiki'Aukekulelia study ike ia kanaka, ka poe i mau hoa, e noho ma ka awelika 22 hapahaneri hou. Limahana o Harvard University i hōʻike 'i e pono ai ke kulana no ka pomaikai. E like me ia ia lakou, hauʻoli no ka poe o ko mākou kona hoa noho i loko o ka hookahi mile.

Naʻe, ka hoaaloha, e like me ka mea i aloha ai, he mea he downside. Kou hoapili no ke ola ke neʻe i kekahi kulanakauhale a me ka hoʻololi 'ana i kāu Outlook. Ma kekahi wahi oe e haha i ka mea i nalowale paulele i loko ona, a hiki i hou ia me ke kanaka'ē aʻe,ʻo ia. Palapala ua lilo increasingly pohihihi keia, a me ke kiʻekiʻe o kahakai'aʻaiawā ai. I kekahi manawa nīnūnē pilikia, misunderstandings a me kāna hana e lawelawe i kane manaopaa, koke, akā, aloha wale ulu ikaika. Akā, i kekahi manawa conflictual pilina i lilo hoʻomākaʻu ana bele no ka mai ana mai ka palaho. Pehea la au e ike i ke aloha i hoopahaohao a ua lilo iho la "ʻawahia"? Eia ka kekahi maopopo hoailona.

Kēlā me kēia pū pinepine ninau mai oe no maluna

Friends kuleana pili i mea e kōkua ma ka pilikia manawa. Naʻe, i kēia kükohu 'aʻole e hoohalike ai i ka hoʻokahi-ala alanui. Oe i hoomaka ai e hana i ka manaʻo ana au i ke kahu, he psychotherapist, a he kumu nui kahi o ke kālā kōkua? A laila, e akahele. Kēia kanaka i mea e like ai i ka leech, a me ka makemake o ka ae nanea ana i kou lokomaikaʻi. No ke aha e nana i ka aoao mai o ke kālā hoʻoponopono ulia? Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he mea ka hoa oiaio i haawi ole wale dala ma i ka manawa maopopo, akā, mai koi i ka uku pānaʻi. A he, ina keia kanaka mea, ua kalele iho ma luna o oe, ka mea, i kaʻoi aku kona nui ke keʻena o ka puke - waiwai manawa.

Oe e makemake, e halawai me ia kanaka, a me ke kaniʻuhūʻana o ke ola ia ia i koe

Ua a pau, hoomaka ae la me ka hoopaapaa ma a ole kekahi i makemake e concede. A laila, hoomaka ae la ke kaua, e hele mai i loko o nā minute. Oe i hoomaka ai e ike i keia kanaka, ua i pale aku ia oukou. I ka allusion i ke anaina kanaka,ʻo ia mau kēia i ka hana. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka mea, he mea i kekahi mea maopopo hele hewa. I malama ma ka manaʻo i ka pili aloha ma - o ka naau mai.

Anei oe e ae aku, mai ka unpredictability o kona hoa

Kekahi o ka "ʻawahia" kanaka mea ai unpredictable i ua mau hanaiia a waiho 'ē aʻe i loko o ka awkward kūlana. Inā 'oe i kekahi mau hana, makemake i lōʻihi ia mai hele bankrupt. ua i hoʻohana 'ia kēia kanaka e malama i kana olelo, a aole e imi i ka hooko ana me kēia mau kuleana ia oe. A hiki aku oe i ka ikaika anticipation o hou "ia paena", keia i ka hopena maikaʻi ia ma luna o kou psyche. E like me ka hopena, i kou ikaika mau hoa i ka iini, nervousness a me ka kaumaha.

E 'ike kaʻawaʻawa loa symptoms

Halawai hauoli ana neia me classmates kahiko i ole i kekahi mea, aka, i mea hoʻokomo aku, lokomaikai Memories a me ka minoʻaka. Ka halawai ana me ia ma ka cafe me nā hoa i ka maikaʻi kauoha, a me ka naʻau i loko maikai. Naʻe, i kēia 'aʻole e mau hana. Inā e hai ia ma hope o ka halawai ana o ka poo hoʻomaka e Wāwahi mai o ka eha, he mea heartburn, nausea paha opu cramps, no laila, i ke kino wale Hōʻike ka "kaʻawahia" o ke kanaka. Inā kou naʻau ole ai ia e ike i ka maopopo, alaila, i ke kino e hiki mai ana i ka maluhia upena. A hiki aku oe i hope ike ia mau Pilina hana oi ino ma mua o ka maikai?

'Ē aʻe mai i nana ole i ko lakou mau hewa

A hoa maikai, ka mea makemake, e ae aku i ko lakou mau pilikia, ma mua ma luna o nā kūlana pale. Inā, ma muli o kou noʻonoʻo loi oia pinepine hewa, o ka pilikia o laila. No, ka mea, ke ole ia ma excessive pā lonoaʻili. Kona haaheo, aole ia e ae, e ae aku ka mea, ua hewa.

It undermines āina noho kahu '

Aloha 'Aʻole e kala mai kipi. Ke kanaka nana ia i kumakaia, hoʻokahi houʻana, e hoʻomau e hana ai. Ke olonā wāwae manao lea hoi au e hoopau ana i ka pilina.