Kēia 'ohana - he aupuni alii iho la oia ma ke aloha!

No laila, i loko o ke ao nei ka mea, ua ea ae ka hana i ka maʻamau ohana - heʻoiaʻiʻo i ka mare ole makua, ka poe i keiki. Mau ohana ma i kekahi makua, e koho haule i loko o ka waeʻano o "hemahema", "kāpili" a hikiʻohana "dysfunctional." Au koke kau aku i ka kekahi manao.

Ka helu o nā lālāʻohana aliʻi , aole ia e pono ke ano o kona mea e like ai. Ikaika, hauʻoli, hauʻoli ohana - ia mea he uuku hui kahi a pau hōʻoluʻolu. A me ke alo o na makua o nā sexes mea,ʻaʻole he anakahi o ka pono o ke ana i loko o laila.

O ka holo ana, he hookahi Papai a makuahine, e hooho ana i kekahi keiki ma luna o lākou iho, ka mea mea paʻakikī loa, e haawi aku na keiki i ka versatile hoʻonaʻauao. Akā, ia mea he affordable! A hailona o ka makuahine, ka poe i lawe mai kamahaʻo, e koa hoʻi, pakiko-e kaumaha ana keiki. A me ka Pope aia no kekahi poe kōkua kā lākou kaikamāhine ulu i ano a me ka akahai, he kupanaha nā malihini a me ka mālama makuwahine. Kekahi ninau, heaha ka mea, ke kumukuai o ia ... Akā mākou e kamaʻilio kēia manawa,ʻaʻole e pili ana ia.

He nui na kau aku i ka ia hoʻi i ka mea maʻamau, "maoli" 'ohana - he' ohana ma laila nā keiki. Hou controversial manao.

No ka mea he nui na makua, me na keiki mea maoli e pono ai i ka mea e haha aku e like me ka piha-fledged ohana. Akā, aia no kekahi poe i na keiki e pāpā ikaika mai,ʻaʻole e pono ai, ka mea, i no kekahi i kekahi i ka hohonu pono o ko lākou olaʻana i piha me kaʻike hoʻokumu, hana, ka hoʻoponopono-hou. ʻO ka wa elemakule, i ka mau nō aloha aku kekahi i kekahi, kākoʻo, empathy.

Ina aole kekahi i nā kānaka apau, e hoahewa ia lakou no ka mea? Ka hou no laila, no ka mea,ʻaʻole lākou mauʻohana a pau a me na keiki, ke kaena o ka naauao a me ka malie friendliness i loko o kā lākou uuku hui.

Aia o kekahi "nā kaʻao" o ka 'ohana ka pomaikai, a au makemake makemake e luku aku. Ka hapanui o nā mākua i aku i ka postulate i hauʻoli i ka 'ohana - ka mea, Aloha wale kekahi i kahi e loa ola na keiki.

O ka holo ana, e nana i ka ehaeha o ka mea i aloha ai kekahi - ho'āʻo mea,ʻaʻole no ka mea nawaliwali uhane. Eia naʻe, ua mauʻohana, e kākau inoa i loko o ka waeʻano o "he ulia pakalaki", "dysfunctional" - he nui kuhihewa. I manaʻoʻoi aku kona nui ma mua o ke alo o kekahi o na lala o ka ohana o ka physical hiki, a me ka heluia, o ka mea a pau i ke koena i ke kanaka me kekahi kanaka.

An kumu eʻae i koʻu manaʻo hoʻopiʻi kū'ē i hiki e hauʻoli i ka 'ohana ma ka a, aia no na kanaka me ke kino kīnā, e like me ka mea i ka ai-kapaia "kāpili" ohana He kuleana ko ia e hauʻoli, he maikaʻi, e malama aku i ka moʻolelo e pili ana i ka makuahine a me ke keiki.

He ua wale 8 makahiki o Manase i kona makuahine i maʻi lōlō. Ua papani iho e hele, kamakamailio ae la oia, eʻai, a hoʻomākaukau oe ia oe iho. Ka Pope i mua maluhia kahi e noho iho la, pau loa e pili ana i hoopoina i kana mamuli o-wahine a me ke keiki.

E hiki anei ia e kapa i ka holo mai o kaʻohana pōʻino? Kaupalena naʻe, i ka pōʻino ua i kona hele ana iloko o ko Hawaiʻi moku ... No laila, mai ka "piha" 'ohana me na makua mau makuahine a me ke keiki a neʻe akula i loko o ka waeʻano o "hookahi makuaʻohana", "dysfunctional." Naʻe, ka mea, ano okoa: akā, ano ka mea, ua noho ka pomaikai a me ka olioli, ke kuikahi, a me ke aloha!

Akā, na ka'īnea ua hoano e mare ke ola, e like me: pepehi ana, sleepless po, hana no i kekahi, akahi denari, a hele aku la ma mele-kanakaʻona mau kane - hoʻomanaʻo no lakou iho. Ke haiia'ku i uhi mai ia i ka malamalama. Mom lilo ka maʻi. Boy makemake e lawe i ka malumalu, hookaawale aku la ia ia, mai ka wale ohana kanaka.

Hoa intervened. Ua puka mai ma luna o ke keiki malama. A me na keiki a pau i ka Care o Mom, hae ma luna o ko lakou mau poohiwi. At 9 makahiki kahiko keiki washes ia ia iho, a i hanai i ka makuwahine, mai ka puna, ma ka lima hana ia no ka hele ana, e noho ana ma ka noho huila, hana lomilomi, kamailio, a aole i hooki i ka hai mai i kona aloha ia ia, a honi i kona lima.

Family - keia Aupuni, a ua alii iho la oia ma ke aloha! Mom aʻo e ku, i mai la ka mua olelo ma hope o ka weliweli lā i maheleia ke ola i loko o "mua" a me "ma hope." O lakou na olelo: "I ... aloha ... oe ..."

Kekahi reporter aʻo e pili ana i ia mau mea, hoomakaukau iho la i ka hoike. Kīwī ka pilina i ka mea i ke keiki - keia meʻe, he nui ke kanaka, i ka ikaika a me ka indomitable kanaka me ka nui aloha ka naau, me ka nui ikaika o ka manao - aʻo i ka pau aina. I kēia lā, e hoʻolohe i ka influential kanaka, koʻu makuwahine ua hoomakaukau ana no ka hana, a, e like me na kumu, ka mea e maopopo leʻa kōkua, e like me ka holomua e ka i.

I mea - heʻohana oiaio, o ka ohana akau, he maoli ohana. Aʻaʻohe mea i ka nui o kana mau keiki i na makua a pau i hana i loko o ka hoʻonaʻauao 'ia' ana o ka hua, ina paha he nui ka waiwai i pau i ola - keia mea heʻohana,ʻaʻole i ka notorious "aeea", kakau ma ka pepa.

A me ka mea hope loa nā kaʻao e pili ana i mea no ka ohana e e noʻonoʻo opiopio. I kēia mau lā hoʻolauna i ka makahiki ana hoʻohālike no ka pomaikai ma ka loaa neo? Aaiiai? "No ka opiopio ohana." Komo ma ka huli mea hiki wale ke loaʻa i kekahi o ka noho male no 36 makahiki. Ke manaoio nei au i ka mea i hewa.

Young ohana - he 'ohana i i hana ai i mua o 8 makahiki aku nei, Ma waho aʻeo ka noho male makahiki. No ke aha la 8 a me ka ole 5 a 6?

Psychologists a me sociologists hoʻopaʻapaʻa ana i na Leomakana ma ka huli 7 makahiki pinepine mai hemo mai. No laila, i loko o kēia wā nele kūikawā kākoʻo, nā mea a me ka manaʻoʻike.

A pau i hoike e mai iaʻu - IMHO. Akā, ka mea, i nā kānaka apau ke ola, ka heluhelu a me ka kūkākūkā.