Pehea e hoolilo i ke kauwa? kanaka'ōnaehanaʻike manaʻo

Ke hou oihana, kaawale oihana, kona mau ukali subordinates a "Halo" poo e paa ana ia kiʻekiʻe ma luna o kona poʻo ... a pau o kēia mau aeia no credentials oe i kuai nei i loaa i kekahi wahi ma ka hoʻomalu 'Oihana a me ka' akomi ohui i ka helu ana o "i koho halekiai" o ka huakai. Akā, ma mua oe i ke hoʻoneʻe aku, mai ka weightless moku'āina o euphoria a me ka headache mai i nehinei i ka festivities i loko o ka hanohano o ka mahuahua like i loko o ka barela o ka meli literally haule lele i loko o ka mea poni i loko o ka palapala pilikia a me kona mau subordinates, ka mea a hemo ka a pau ke kaua i loko o ka 'Oihana, ke akea paha malū hoole, e lawe i ka wahine paha, o ka mea hou aʻa Makehewa .

"Kipi" kāpae'ōlelo kauoha, hoʻokūkū hōʻike,ʻo ka wai mulea i kona unreliability, nema aku'ōnaehana, a pau lokomaikai e hoike ana i makemake ole e malama ia. Ma mua, i nā mea a pau-hou Hoʻokō no i noho ai ma luna o punitive ana i loko o ka palapala o nā uku haʻakiu, hoʻokuʻu loa 'ia a me ka pakaua machines makaaniani subordinates po pouli (o ka papa, he exaggeration, akā,ʻaʻole loa e ike), a me kaʻike makaʻole kaua ke kauo i loa. Hua'ōlelo i makemake Make Loa catches i ka'ōlelo aʻo a oi inā pilikia ka haumāna nā hoapili paha e makaikai i ka naau o ka Internet, e huli i ke ala ana, e hoolilo i ke kauwa , a lilo i ka mea e pono ai alihi kaua. E noonoo oe i ka ahalunakanawai, i loko o ia mau hoopii, psychologists.

Ka lahilahi laina ma waena o ka lāʻau, a me ka carrot

Ka mea mua a me ka paha ka mea nui wale rula - ke kumu hoʻohālikelike ano, ka mea e ole pilikia na mea a pau i kekahi limahana a hana kaʻina. No mea pehea ka nui o kou delved i loko o ka moʻokalaleo ma luna o ke kumuhana, hakilo iho aʻo wikiō, lohe nui conflicting aʻo mai nā hoapili i ka 'aina awakea, i kou hooponopono kaila e ole blindly kope i ka olelo pai ia i loko o ka buke, a hai mai la ma ka hoao ana i ka man- akia. pono lawe kanaka'ōnaehanaʻike manaʻo i loko o kou ano na imprints o kēia ano, ma kona ano maoli kanaka, Hone hana e kū lākou Emotions, a me kā lākou ka hoao ana iho o ke ala hele, mai ka lalo a hiki i ke keena luna kiʻekiʻe. pono e pono ai, mea i hana 'oe i manaʻo mai i kona Make Loa, e noho ana ma ka noho maʻamau Kakauolelo kou e pili ana i ka subordinates. E ho'āʻo i loaʻa i waena lepo ma waena o ka hewa picky hanau, aole e kaomi mai i ka leo o ka hoolea, a me ka pahee kauwawahine aʻa Makehewa ka mea, aole ia i aa e hōʻike i kona poino ai.

"Veto" poo, a me ka aha, aole e hana

Mua e huli i ka makemake muli, a me ka hoʻokō hana o ana i ka hoolilo i subordinates, e e kama'āina i ka papa inoa o ka hookapu i koe, kue o ka a, e kakau oe i like loa kaʻawaʻawa loa, a inoino-kela ano keia ano aliʻi-haʻahaʻa o Wiliama:

• E hele i ke kanaka. Ka Ikepili o ke kanaka, unrelated i ke kumu o ka mea e like ai? Aaiuo eaa - heʻoiaʻiʻo ala e hoolilo ia hai i kookoo.
• Hoomahuahua ae la lakou leo huli i loko o ka scream. Wild Kaiaulu Aʻole e hoʻomakaʻu? Aaiuo, a mai puʻe wale aku ia lakou e hoolohe ia, ma ka mea, ua hanaʻoe i hōʻike ai kona nawaliwali, a me ka hikiʻole, e pihaʻi me kā lākou Emotions, a nolaila i ka hooponopono ana.
• Ka pololei, samopohvala a me ka h ÷ ike ike ana o ka hoʻoponopono-nui. Head, touted ia iho nō, a, aole loa hala ka manawa, e kaena aku e pili ana i kona mau successes, e hōʻike pehea nui i kona aka no ka poe i hiki ole ia mea, waiho no ia ia ma ka like mahalo a me kākoʻo, a me ka hiki hou admirable.
• Kue o ka pāʻoihana nā mea pono , a me ka hooponopono ana o ka lā ma ka akau o ke komo ana i ka helu o ka "haku." Inā ke alakaʻi e leie aku ia ia iho i nā hana pili i ka waeʻano o ka pāpāʻia e ia (i loko o ka palapala o ka pau ole kelepona i kamaʻilio me kona kuko ino, ka hoʻohana 'ana nā pihi lohe, o ka noho ana ma luna o ka Internet, Skype mea,ʻaʻole ma ka hana nīnūnē, he meaʻai māmā ma ka' Oihana), subordinate luna e koke hoʻomaka e lawe i kona kumu hoʻohālike, koke hana ana i olelo kapu pāpā olelo.
• Sluggish hana, nele i ka hoihoi me ka hopena, nele i ka aahu manaʻo a me ka hāpai '. He aha ka ke aʻa Makehewa, pēlā nō ke kookoo. Ke alakaʻi, i lokomaikaiia mai oia e ke kanaka maoli hana, ma kekahi hihia, i ko lakou palaka, e iho mailoko o na kanaka i hahai ma muli ona.

waeʻano'ōnaehana, 'ana i kūpono a me nā paena

I loko nō o ka versatility, he mea hiki kanaka'ōnaehanaʻike manaʻo ua maheleia i mau waeʻano:

1. Ke alanui i ka pomaikai, e noho ana astride o ka'ā'ī o nā subordinates, a loaa unfeeling alihi kaua.
2. Ke alanui i ka pomaikai e like me ka uwa maila ma nā lima o nā subordinates, a me ka ikaika o ka hoʻoulu.

Ke alakaʻi e wae mai i ke kūpono nā kaʻa mokulele - ke kaumaha ma muli kino ano, kā lākou mau inā pilikia ka haumāna a me nā kino i ka i kanaka i ka mau.

Ka waeʻano mua komo ai i ka huna hooponopono kanaka: manipulation, makaʻu, hoohaahaa ana, hewa, kaʻeo. E hoomanao i kēia mau kiʻina hana ma hou au mamuli.

manipulation

Manipulation me he wahi malu hoi, e hooponopono ia hoʻi, ma ka maalea, akamai, pahuna ma ka hoʻokō 'ana i ko lakou mau pahu hopu i ke kanaka waiū. Ma pohihihi keia hihia, ai ka hope loa pahu hopu i maikai, akā, i ka manipulation, ma kona ano maoli, he mea'ē aʻe ma mua o ka hana o ka i alakaʻi ai i kanaka, e lawe noonoo coercion o ka noho lakou malaila hoʻoholo. Kona papa likeʻole, mai ka naau mai hoolohe mea i kanaka pono mai, mai haʻalele i ka poʻe uʻi a, e lawe i ka okoa ala, koe wale no kau.

Ma keia hihia epa a me ka manaʻo, ke kaumaha ma muli o ka 'ano o ke poo, hiki ke hoʻohana' ia no lākou iho p'hana ai no ka pomaikai o ka huakai. subordinate i ka rula o ka manipulating kikowaena'ōnaehana noʻiau, kena ae la kāʻeoʻeo, huhu, ka makau, ka hala.

Kāʻeoʻeo, huhu

Kiola casually 'ole' ana alai unflattering hopuna'ōlelo e pili ana i ka hana me ka limahana ma ka kāʻei kua o ka ulu hoolea i kekahi kauwā i loko o 9 hihia mai o ka 10 ka holomua 'ana, a me nā mea a pau i ke aloha i ka hoʻomaopop' ana i kanaka ka hakakā e manao ana. Noho haumāna kahi o ka palapala noi oi ana i kekahi mea e like keia: "Petrov brilliantly Makuakane i ka hana, akā, oe e ai mea e hiki ia?" A "You Petrov opa ai ke kukui i ole maikaʻi!" A piholo limahana lama hoʻohuihui "ʻoe nō e hiki i kekahi mea, akā, Petrov!" pahū Emotions - huhu, kaʻeo, makemake e hōʻike aku kā lākou nā mea hiki, a hoike mai la ia, he, nui ke a hiki - pushes manipulated e hana i kekahiʻano o ka hana. Me kona manao e pili ana i keʻano o kā lākou mau hana, i ke kauwa, me ka ike ole ia, e kokua unuhi i ka manaʻo o ke Alii.

makau

Ia mea,ʻaʻole e hiki i ka pololei hooholo i ke ano o ka makau o na Aupuni: ka mea hiki ke kapa i ka mana o ka alihi kaua o ka despotic, nāwaliwali-Ke makemake nei anei kauwawahine paha he pono nō i loko o ka palapala: "No ka hookuli a me ka 'ole-kaʻaeʻana i nā Pahuhopu - i ka hoʻokuʻu loa' ia o ka" paʻa o ka he pono nō i pau ai i ka ho omaulia recalcitrant poe hana e hōʻoia i nā hua'ōlelo e i ka pono kanawai: ka mea manaʻo wahi? aaiuo, e e alakaiia e ke Alii. Wale i keia hihia, ka pilina man- akia, a subordinates ka mea, i ka nānā 'ana ma luna o ka mahalo, pakiko-e haawi ana i loko o ka inoa o ka hana, a ma ka banal makau o losing kā lākou mau hana.

hewa

Latent'ōnaehana, kūkuluʻia ma ka hewa, ioiinyony epekema ma i ke poo o ka hai withdrawal o nā mea a pau 'Oihana aaiuo eaa bonuses a hoomaha no i ka poe ilihune ma Hawaiʻi o ka hana o kekahi o ia mau mea; me ka me ka uku nui loa 'ole (Holiday) koe kekahi limahana no ka lawa ikaika' ē aʻe. Komo puʻe, ma muli o ke ano o ka hewa, imi e i ka ways, e hana maikaʻi, no laila, i ole, e lawe mai i ka 'ē aʻe.

kanaka'ōnaehanaʻike manaʻo, ma muli o ka mea akamai hoonaukiuki ana, hapai ae hiki haawi hualoaʻa, akā, ua pono i ka hihia ma ka huna hopena mea pono no ka pono hana, aʻaʻole no lākou iho naʻu-panee, a me na koa a me nā kumu waiwai.

Ka lua o ka waeʻano komo ai oi'ōnaehana kupaʻa ano o ka naʻi credibility, ae pomaikai no nā 'aoʻao a me kaʻeleu paipai' o kemokalaka kulekele hopena.

pono ai

he alakaʻi maikaʻi e lilo, e pono ike i kou hana, hana, a me ka pili ma me subordinates 'ana pili i ka microclimate o ka' Oihana, nā limahana heluia, e hana a me ka productivity hana hanaia. e hiki ke lawe kuleana, e hoopiha i kona hui, e iho mailoko o ia me kona ohohia, e alakai ma ke kumu hoohalike, a me e maikaʻi no ia i ka luna pono. Lovely alakaʻi - i ka kekahi i ke kumu o ka subordinate holoholona makau, uhi a me ka hoʻonāukiukiʻana mai o kāna hana e lawelawe. A oiaio alakaʻi - kekahi mea, e ike ana i kaʻike manaʻo o kēlā me kēia limahana, me kona mau pono kīvila, nā loina a me na makemake, e kuhikuhi i ke kahe o ka ikaika i loko o ke ala e hiki aku akau. No ka ona, ka mea,ʻaʻohe nohona papa "ʻoi aʻe nō hoʻi, a subordinates," oia ua haawi mai ia i ka nui i ka mea hiki ole akā, i ka makemake ia, me kona aloha, mahalo, i ka mahalo no nā mea a pau, a hahai aku la ia ia me ka makemake.

E halelu aku, malimali, oluolu

O i ike ole ia i ka kela mea keia mea nele regular hoolea, paipai a me ka apono ana o kā lākou mau hana. Ke poo - ka mea nana e haawi aku i ka makemake subordinates. Pono hoolea, ia nā kumu kāki no ka maikai? Aaiuo, iaia o lākou e piʻi like - he pono ka paahana no ka ho onui ana paulele a me ka mahalo i ka mea like a me kona ka hoʻoulu i ka hiki hou maikaʻi loa i nā hualoaʻa. Haʻi'ōlelo hana o ka mana hoʻomalu ma ka pono nui kou hoolea, i ka wa a ka Make Loa ma ka mua expresses mahalo i ke kauwa, no ka laʻana: ". Au i manao e mai i pono ai keia hana ia oe, no ka mea, wale nōʻoe e e hiki ke Makuakane me ia" Ka oluolu a me ka mahalo nui i ka lāʻau (a laila, pehea: "ke aliʻi manaʻo I Like i ka mea maikaʻi, a me au pono hiki ole lawe ia") hooko i ka mea me ka papaluaiaʻi ikaika a me ka molowa ole. Ma keia hihia, no ka Make Loa, he akaka manaʻo o pehea e hoʻopio i kona mau subordinates, hoʻokahi pana e waiho ma luna o nā maka o nā manu: e hoʻokō maikaʻi hana o ka hana, a me maoli i ka helu ana o kupaʻa kanaka.

Art ka hoʻoulu

He nui ia e hiki ke hoʻouna i ka hailona o ke kanaka a me kekahi mau hana, a me kekahi pae o ka hoʻokōʻana a me nā mākau i ka hoʻokahi ala. No keia hopena, kela lala o ka hui pono, e imi i kekahi kanaka hoʻokokoke mai, e aʻo kona mau noʻonoʻo a me nā pono kīvila, a, ma luna o kēia kumu, e hoʻomōhala ways. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ka wā maopopo, akä, e ka hiki pono o ka neʻe i mua, e hoano hou ana mamala poe kanaka i loko o ka ikaika, nona ka hopena hopena o ka noho aloha pū kime. The manakia pono ole e wale hiki ke hoopiha i, akā, no hoi, e malama i ke kaua uhane, e hele aku i ka makani, i puhi i ka manaoio ma ka paʻa mau pomaikai when involuntarily hoʻokuʻu i kona mau lima ... Oae, kekahi o ka nui aʻa Makehewa ano i loko o kona arsenal mea i ka hiki i ka pono a me ka maiau hoʻonā i ka hakakā ma waena o ke kookoo, me ka hoʻokaeʻili no na aoao elua. A kaua o "Make Loa-subordinate" o ka 'oihana alakaʻi mea wale koke aku - i ka hoʻomaka o ka managerial' oihana, a me ka hiki laila,ʻaʻole e mau ana.

mākaukau

Subordinates pinepine e lohe i kā lākou aʻa Makehewa mea hiki ma ka wahi waiho ia ia, ike ia he mea e pono ai i ka ike a me ka mākau pehea. Oe E e hoomakaukau no ka hoʻokolokolo pono loiloi, he kilo hoihoi a me ka piha Ka Ikepili o lākou nā mea hiki ma ka aoao o kou papa. No laila 'oe wale pono e ike e pili ana i kā lākou mau hana aneane na mea a pau mau hoʻoikaika' ana, a hoopiha i ka ike kumu. I ka maka o ke poo o ke kime - i keʻano o ka ike lea ana, a me ka brilliance alohilohi, naʻee manao, a pehea ia e hoʻokele i loaʻa ai i kēia wahi? Oe e makemake, e loaa ole ia i ko lakou? Aaiuo, a hiki hou aku ai i naʻau pono o ke alakaʻi, he mau 'āinana apau iā ia i loko o mea malihini ia oe? Study, kālailai, a mau aʻo e lilo i ace i loko o kou mahinaʻai,ʻaʻole aiʻaʻahu i ko lakou mau kuleana i? Aaiuo, a me nā mea i ke ano o ke "poʻo" hua'ōlelo, a "kauwa"?

Hoʻokaʻaʻike inoa

E hoʻohana i ka'ōlelo aʻo a ike psychologist Dale Carnegie, ka poe i ua kūkākūkāʻia ana ka inoa - keia mea i ka sweetest kani no mākou. Hoopii ma ka aoao o ke kanaka maoli i ka nui i loko o kona mau maka a me ka pokole o ka interlocutor. Kapa aku i kona subordinates ole ma ka inoa, kapakapa o, a me ka ikaika e like me ka inoa, a ma kekahi hihia ole ia e ahakanaka la, aʻaʻole i ka paha ka nānaina ia. Ua noʻonoʻo 'ana i kūpono e hōʻoiaʻiʻoʻoe i ka wahi, a me ka manao ana o kekahi poe.

Hoʻolohe - no hoi ka oe

E aʻo i ka ho olohe pono i ka interlocutor, ka malama ana ma luna o kona maka, i ka olelo o polite hoihoi, me he kumumea o ke keʻena paha, heʻino, palaka. Ma ia hihia, ina oe e ole ae i kana mau olelo,ʻaʻole i loko o ka wikiwiki, e alalai mai i ka kamailio ana me kā lākou mau manaʻo hoʻopiʻi kū'ē. E hoolohe i ka limahana ma mua o ka hopena tick manaʻo i kona manao, a wale laila, e'ōlelo aku i ka nānaina o ka mea. Hiki i ka hoolohe a me ka noonoo i ka manao o subordinates hoala wale kou credibility, a loaa i ka manao o ke kime.

Ana i loko o kā lākou kükohu'ōnaehana 'ana i kūpono a me nā manaʻo kōkua ma luna,' oe e maopopo ana i ka hoolilo i na subordinates, a paha lilo kekahi o na luna alakaʻi o ko mākou manawa.